Hello, I'm April A.
A 3x author, transformative life coach specializing in relationships. I'm a mother, sister, favorite daughter, best friend, sensational motivational speaker, happily married wife for over 16 years who has empowered the lives of women for over 2 decades.
My best selling book, Compatible Companion is a #1 new release and my groundbreaking relationship strategies have been featured on NBC, CW, BNC, CBS, FOX and other media outlets reaching millions. My formal education has yielded two degrees (business & finance), numerous licenses and certifications and I am a sought after Certified, Expert Relationship Coach. Yes! Yes! Yes!
BUT HERE'S WHAT'S REALLY IMPORTANT:
I'm not a Relationship Expert because it's popular. I'm here because I believe in creating lasting "Legacy Love" for betterment of black communities and generations to come.
I am here because of survival, transformation and a decision to never stop believing in love and have made it my mission to help you and other women have it all...success AND lasting love.
"I'm Not Only the Expert, but also my First Client"
Although an expert in love today, it was no! no! no, not that long ago. As a child, I'd watch my mom be verbally and physically abused to the point of blood on the walls from her "man". My mom would do whatever she could to flee from her attacker, only to end right back in those same arms of the man who broke her down mentally and physically over and over again. A vicious cycle of codependency and low self esteem. I vowed that it would never be me.....until it was.
I met and married a man 12 years my senior when I was very young. He seemed to be what I needed. A father figure (I never met my father) who spoiled me and protected me. But soon after, my night in shining armor turned out to be a wolf in sheep's clothing. He was controlling, egotistical, narcissistic, jealous and straight up mean. We'd argue and fight and one day it turned physical and never stopped. If he didn't like my tone, boop. If I asked too many questions, boop. Whatever, boop. All of the things I said I never wanted for myself in my relationship began to happen. I'd cry myself to sleep at night praying for God to free me from the daily heartache, domestic violence and suffering I was struggling with in the marriage.
I knew there was more to love, more to life, more to marriage. I thought I deserved more, but I felt stuck because of those vows I took until I remembered God’s promise for my life. I thought a lot about how I would continue to waste years of my life hoping that he’d change, or I could cut my losses of the things holding me back like time invested, money wasted, all the what if's. Like what if he changes, what if I help him, what if I don't find anyone else. But all of those things pulling me to stay wasn't a bet I was willing to take. I had to have faith. So, I planned my exit and ended the marriage.
Fast forward years later, I'm now happily re-married to an amazing man. My soul mate. But, it's only because I decided to finally make myself a priority, unlearn the familial traits that were grained in me, did the work and didn't turn my back on loving again.
It’s my belief that every woman deserves a fulfilling relationship where she is empowered to be loved, encouraged to believe in love, and free to be her true self, regardless of the obstacles in the way. By removing the concept of settling, women like me are able to prosper in love and life.